Hello there, how are you doing today? I certainly hope you’re not letting any little imperfections you may have get you down. You’re way too beautiful for that!
This week, whilst messing around on the internet, erm… I mean, doing a lot of important research on the internet, I’ve made a couple of interesting discoveries that I think you’ll like.
Firstly, have you ever heard the term wabi-sabi? I came across it just recently and I love it! Wabi-sabi is the Japanese art, or way of life, of finding beauty in imperfection and profundity in nature. How gorgeous is that?!
Finding beauty in imperfection… Now there’s something we could all learn.
Wabi-sabi is accepting the natural cycle of birth, growth, decay and death, and this applies to all areas of life…
It’s accepting that you get wrinkles as you grow older, and finding a beauty in them – these wrinkles tell a story of a life well lived, the laughter lines show a life full of joy, the ‘crow’s feet’ lines show a life full of smiles.
Wabi-sabi is finding beauty in wooden furniture with all its grain lines and knot holes that are not ‘imperfections’ but add character, instead of hard, shiny, rigid, mass-produced plastic.
It’s not throwing out your favourite teacup just because it has a chip or has crazed a little, but finding a new use for it as a planter, maybe.
You can find wabi-sabi everywhere in life. Through wabi-sabi we are reminded that we are but transient beings on this planet, and that our bodies, as well as the material world around us, are in the process of returning to the dust from which we came.
Now, all that might sound a bit morbid to some, but the message I want to get across in explaining wabi-sabi to you is that we are all different and as we travel through our lives our bodies and our skin changes. But that’s ok! It doesn’t mean that we’re not beautiful anymore just because we have a few lines that never used to be there. I mean, would you really want to look like the baby you once were (and surely, the epitome of youth?!) all your life?
The second discovery I want to share with you is a young lady I found whilst I was in the middle of some very important work-avoidance and nosing around on Youtube. Her name is Elessa and she runs pursebuzz.com and does loads of youtube videos about make-up and fashion (and some really cute hair-styling tutorials!), but there was one video of her’s that I watched and it really stuck a chord with me and I thought it linked-in really well with the message I bring through Love Yourself Naturally.
When watching her videos, you can’t help but warm to her… She’s a real girly girl. I love her energy, and though I’ve never met her and have only watched a few of her videos, I feel like I’ve known her for ages! She talks to you (through the video) like you were her best friend, and I love the way she chatters on and sometimes goes a bit off-topic, just like when you’re in conversation with a really good friend.
Anyway, in this video she talks about imperfections.
Watch the video and I’ll see you after…
Hello again. How did you like the video?
The thing I most liked was how Elessa accepted her imperfections and turned them to her advantage. In the video she talks about her eyes not being even, and when she was younger she couldn’t wear eye make-up because nobody could teach her how to apply make-up to her eyes because they were uneven. But now she teaches hundreds of women, through her videos, how to apply make-up. She took her imperfection and turned it into an asset. And as she says in the video; what can you do about it? You might as well accept it and learn to love the individuality it gives you.
The last thought I want to leave you with today is this…
I’m sure you’ll agree, Elessa is a gorgeous lady, right? Did you notice that her eyes weren’t even before she mentioned it? No? Neither did I.
You see, our imperfections, those things that are so obvious to us (crooked teeth, uneven eyes, a birth mark, wrinkles, a big nose, etc.), aren’t so obvious to others. I’m going to repeat that because I think it’s important that you get this message…
Our imperfections aren’t obvious to others.
We spend so much time looking at ourselves in the mirror and obsessing over our appearance that we tend to blow things out of proportion until we get to the point where we have to hide this ‘imperfection’ because it makes us so ugly! When in reality, to others, that thing that you hate is what really makes you… YOU.
Until next time,
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